17 Ugly Psychology Truths No One Wants To Admit - Adam Lane Smith | Modern Wisdom 674

The video is about 17 "ugly psychology truths" that the host, Chris Williamson, discusses on his Modern Wisdom podcast. The first truth he discusses is that women do not bond with insecure men who crave approval, as they do not process hormones in the same way as men and do not experience the same level of oxytocin. The host also discusses how casual sex can be difficult for women, especially maintaining friendships, and how women often turn friendships with benefits into situationships. He also talks about how women use their theory of mind, cross-sex mind reading failures, to believe that if they feel deeply about someone, they must feel the same way about them, which is a failure of using their own theory of mind. The host also talks about how people are trying to be interesting instead of being real, and how this lack of authenticity can make it difficult to connect with others.

This video by Chris Williamson was published on Aug 31, 2023.
Video length: 01:22:59.

The video is about 17 "ugly psychology truths" that the host, Chris Williamson, discusses on his Modern Wisdom podcast.

The first truth he discusses is that women do not bond with men who have insecure personalities. He explains that women do not want to bond with men who crave approval, as they do not process hormones in the same way as men. He also notes that women who have an orgasm with a man are more likely to bond with him, as this increases their affection for him.

The video goes on to discuss other truths, such as the importance of communication in relationships and the dangers of comparing oneself to others.

• Women do not bond with insecure men who crave approval.
• Casual sex can be difficult for women, especially maintaining friendships.
• Women use their theory of mind, cross-sex mind reading failures, to believe that if they feel deeply about someone, they must feel the same way about them.
• Mirroring neurons are two of the only structures that are fully formed at birth and are mirroring neurons, which are supposed to have mom paying attention to them and looking at them and mirroring their expression to her so that we feel interesting to people just by existing.
• Kids start acting out a lot or they go Inward and don't believe they can get any kind of response the response tries to die the desire to even connect so then people are trying in dating to be interesting they're trying to stimulate others, women say I have to sleep with them on the first date or he'll lose interest.
• Men don't bond that way they don't typically if there's already a bond happening, yes then having sex can be unitive and it can make him love you and and and not love you but make him care for you more it can increase his affection for you it can increase the bonding.
• The connection already has to be there you don't get a guy to fall in love with you doing that so this whole first date sleep with them on the first date so he'll stay around that's a whole other thing.
• Women believe that if they feel deeply about someone, they must feel the same way about them, which is a failure of using their own theory of mind.
• Secure people want a direct human authentic connection.

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Section 1: Women's Bonding with Men

• Women do not bond with insecure men who crave approval, as they do not process hormones in the same way as men and do not experience the same level of oxytocin.
• Casual sex can be difficult for women, especially maintaining friendships, and often turns into situationships.
• Women use their theory of mind, cross-sex mind reading failures, to believe that if they feel deeply about someone, they must feel the same way about them, which is a failure of using their own theory of mind.
• Mirroring neurons are two of the only structures that are fully formed at birth and are mirroring neurons, which are supposed to have mom paying attention to them and looking at them and mirroring their expression to her so that we feel interesting to people just by existing.
• Kids start acting out a lot or they go Inward and don't believe they can get any kind of response the response tries to die the desire to even connect so then people are trying in dating to be interesting they're trying to stimulate others, women say I have to sleep with them on the first date or he'll lose interest.

Section 2: Men's Bonding with Women

• Men don't bond that way they don't typically if there's already a bond happening, yes then having sex can be unitive and it can make him love you and and and not love you but make him care for you more it can increase his affection for you it can increase the bonding.
• The connection already has to be there you don't get a guy to fall in love with you doing that so this whole first date sleep with them on the first date so he'll stay around that's a whole other thing.

Section 3: Cross-Sex Mind Reading Failures

• Women believe that if they feel deeply about someone, they must feel the same way about them, which is a failure of using their own theory of mind.
• Mirroring neurons all the way back have you you've probably met guys like this right that try to be interesting instead of be real.

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Section 4: Authenticity and Connection

• There's a massive lack of confidence and insecurity around authenticity there's all manner of rumor and half truth and full truth and no truth about vulnerability and when it's right to open up and when you shouldn't open up as a man.
• The more performative it becomes the more Persona and less person there is in the interaction and the more that that happens the less you actually feel connected with what you're doing because you're not connecting from you to a person you're playing a role.

Section 1: Women and Insecure Men

• Women do not bond with insecure men who crave approval.
• Insecure men are trying to be interesting and play anxious or avoidant dance.
• Women often turn friendships with benefits into situationships.
• Women use their theory of mind to believe that if they feel deeply about someone, they must feel the same way about them.
• This is a failure of using their own theory of mind.

Section 2: Casual Sex and Women

• Casual sex can be difficult for women, especially maintaining friendships.
• Women often feel pressure to have sex with men they are attracted to.
• Women may feel guilty or ashamed after having casual sex.
• Women may feel like they are not being true to themselves by having casual sex.
• Women may feel like they are not being taken seriously by men if they have casual sex.

Section 3: Authenticity and Connection

• Secure people want a direct human authentic connection.
• Insecure people are trying to be interesting and play anxious or avoidant dance.
• There are two different pools of people that never cross.
• When women see guys, they expect them to be eight feet tall and have an 18 inch dick and be rich.
• Women may feel confused or disinterested in men who do not meet these expectations.

Section 4: Politics and Personal Relationships

• A person obsessing over politics is a good indicator that their personal relationships are a mess.
• People who are financially invested in the political sphere are compensating for feeling powerless in their life.
• Happiest people are not on social media yelling about politics.
• People who are happy are building a life and navigating around the politics that are happening.
• People who are trying to be interesting and stimulate are not having a real conversation.

Section 1: The Power of Politics

• The host discusses how politics is often used as an excuse to not engage properly with challenges in life.
• The host argues that if someone brings up a political issue, the real test is whether they have a plan to address it or not.
• The host suggests that people who rely on politics as an excuse are not taking control of their personal lives.
• The host compares this to watching a sports team and expecting them to win without taking any action.
• The host argues that people who take control of their personal lives are more likely to succeed in their relationships and personal lives.

Section 2: The Placebo Effect

• The host discusses how people are more likely to take a pill for years without understanding its effects.
• The host argues that people often trust institutions blindly, even when they don't understand the medication they are taking.
• The host suggests that the placebo effect can be just as effective as taking a real medication.
• The host argues that people often don't want to do the work required to address their problems.
• The host suggests that people who are willing to do the work are more likely to succeed in their personal lives.

Section 3: The Fear of Difficult Conversations

• The host discusses how people often fear having difficult conversations.
• The host argues that people often associate difficult conversations with abandonment and death.
• The host suggests that people who have had difficult conversations in the past may be less likely to fear them in the future.
• The host argues that people who are willing to have difficult conversations are more likely to succeed in their personal lives.
• The host suggests that people who are afraid of difficult conversations may be less likely to address their problems.

Section 4: The Importance of Communication

• The host discusses how communication is key to building relationships.
• The host argues that people who are willing to have difficult conversations are more likely to build strong relationships.
• The host suggests that people who are afraid of difficult conversations may be less likely to build strong relationships.
• The host argues that people who are willing to listen to others are more likely to build strong relationships.
• The host suggests that people who are not willing to listen to others may be less likely to build strong relationships.

Section 1: Building Secure Attachments

• Women do not bond with insecure men who crave approval.
• Women do not process hormones in the same way as men and do not experience the same level of oxytocin.
• Casual sex can be difficult for women, especially maintaining friendships.
• Women often turn friendships with benefits into situationships.
• Women use their theory of mind, cross-sex mind reading failures, to believe that if they feel deeply about someone, they must feel the same way about them.

Section 2: The Importance of Oxytocin

• Oxytocin is crucial for managing physical pain.
• Oxytocin releases Gaba, Gamma-aminobutyric acid, which is responsible for a lot of melatonin and helps you sleep at night and relax.
• Oxytocin helps you use magnesium effectively to manage stress.
• Oxytocin is an inhibitory neurotransmitter for crushing down anxiety, depression symptoms, and all of those are missing if you don't have healthy relationships with good conversations.
• Having conversations can diminish emotionally, mentally, physically, and everything will start to diminish and your satisfaction in life will go up.

Section 3: Microdosing and Anxiety Management

• Some people take micro doses of pharmaceuticals to manage their anxiety.
• Physical body techniques can also be used to manage anxiety.
• Pharmaceuticals with mental pharmaceuticals most of them is decrease the symptoms to do the work.
• Most cases of depression are a natural response to our broken Society.
• We gain much of our sense of worth, purpose, and joy from our relationships.

Section 4: The Brokenness of Modern Society

• Modern society is systematically destroyed and broken.
• We look back 200 years ago, families had safety nets that if a family didn't go right, a child would connect to one of the five safety nets.
• These safety nets include the core nuclear family, extended family network, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, kith and kin network, peers, friends, neighborhood, tribe, village, religious connections, and community.
• If your family doesn't connect with you, somebody outside that family will step in.
• These safety nets are crucial for children's development and well-being.

Section 1: Women and Insecure Men

• Women do not bond with insecure men who crave approval, as they do not process hormones in the same way as men and do not experience the same level of oxytocin.
• Casual sex can be difficult for women, especially maintaining friendships, and how women often turn friendships with benefits into situationships.
• Women use their theory of mind, cross-sex mind reading failures, to believe that if they feel deeply about someone, they must feel the same way about them, which is a failure of using their own theory of mind.

Section 2: Authenticity and Connection

• People are trying to be interesting instead of being real, and this lack of authenticity can make it difficult to connect with others.
• The host believes that this lack of authenticity is a major issue in modern society, and that it is important to be true to oneself in order to form meaningful connections with others.

Section 3: Human Impact

• The host believes that everyone has the ability to create a human impact, regardless of their background or circumstances.
• He emphasizes the importance of understanding the impact one has on others, and using that understanding to make a positive difference in the world.

Section 4: Legacy and Meaning

• The host believes that creating a legacy is an important part of life, and that it is important to focus on creating something that will have a lasting impact on the world.
• He emphasizes the importance of finding meaning in one's work, and using that meaning to make a positive difference in the world.

Section 1: Women's Bonding with Insecure Men

• Women do not bond with insecure men who crave approval, as they do not process hormones in the same way as men and do not experience the same level of oxytocin.
• Casual sex can be difficult for women, especially maintaining friendships, and often turns friendships with benefits into situationships.
• Women use their theory of mind, cross-sex mind reading failures, to believe that if they feel deeply about someone, they must feel the same way about them, which is a failure of using their own theory of mind.

Section 2: Women's Dating Experiences

• Most women in the dating pool are in a state of abundance, while men are in a state of scarcity.
• Physical vulnerability and shaming or derogating women's value create an uncomfortable environment for women in the dating market.
• Many women in the dating market are unhappy and struggle to find happy relationships.

Section 3: Desire for Committed Relationships

• Both men and women desire committed, monogamous relationships.
• Honesty and stability are the two most important things men and women are looking for in a partner.
• Being clear about wanting a committed relationship on the first date is important to ensure both parties are on the same page.

Section 4: Psychology Truths

• Women do not process hormones in the same way as men and do not experience the same level of oxytocin, which affects their bonding with insecure men.
• Casual sex can be difficult for women, especially maintaining friendships, and often turns friendships with benefits into situationships.
• Women use their theory of mind, cross-sex mind reading failures, to believe that if they feel deeply about someone, they must feel the same way about them, which is a failure of using their own theory of mind.
• Many women in the dating pool are unhappy and struggle to find happy relationships.
• Both men and women desire committed, monogamous relationships.
• Honesty and stability are the two most important things men and women are looking for in a partner.
• Being clear about wanting a committed relationship on the first date is important to ensure both parties are on the same page.

Section 1: The Psychology of Suicide

• The host discusses the rise in suicides among men.
• He mentions that men often feel insecure and unworthy of commitment.
• The host also talks about the lack of kindness and human connection in men's lives.
• He mentions that men often turn to dating as a way to find connection.
• The host discusses the negative effects of divorce on men, particularly those who are initiated by women.

Section 2: Women and Commitment

• The host discusses the idea that women do not want commitment.
• He mentions that women often feel insecure and unworthy of commitment.
• The host talks about the lack of loyalty in women's relationships.
• He mentions that women often stay in relationships with men who are not worthy of them.
• The host discusses the idea that women are not loyal creatures.

Section 3: The Psychology of Relationships

• The host discusses the idea that women stay with men who beat them.
• He mentions that women stay with men who cheat on them.
• The host talks about the idea that women stay with men who have gambling addictions.
• He mentions that women stay with men who have other addictions.
• The host discusses the idea that women stay with men who do not value them.

Section 4: The Psychology of Divorce

• The host discusses the idea that men often get blindsided by divorce.
• He mentions that men often do not take their relationships seriously until it is too late.
• The host talks about the idea that men do not understand the problems in their relationships.
• He mentions that men do not believe that their relationships are a problem.
• The host discusses the idea that men do not believe there is an alternate solution to their problems.

Section 1: Women Do Not Bond with Insecure Men

• Women do not process hormones in the same way as men and do not experience the same level of oxytocin.
• Casual sex can be difficult for women, especially maintaining friendships.
• Women often turn friendships with benefits into situationships.
• Women use their theory of mind, cross-sex mind reading failures, to believe that if they feel deeply about someone, they must feel the same way about them.
• This is a failure of using their own theory of mind.

Section 2: People Are Trying to Be Interesting

• People are trying to be interesting instead of being real.
• This lack of authenticity can make it difficult to connect with others.

Section 3: Women Are Better at Articulating Their Grievances

• Women are usually better at articulating their grievances.
• Most guys can't articulate their emotions that way.
• Most guys have no idea what they felt or why they felt it.
• Women will typically use more of what's called non-violent communication.
• Therapists will say that women have good therapy language because they have read so many books, done therapy themselves, and watched therapy dramas.

Section 4: Women Have an Unfair Advantage When It Comes to Communicating

• Women have an unfair advantage when it comes to communicating and articulating the problems they've got.
• Women have probably spoken to their girl friends about the issue they've had a dry run of this 200 times before already.
• Most of the time, the woman instantly forms a connection with the therapist while the guy is blindsided.
• It is amazing what happens inside the therapy room sometimes.
• If the therapist is not guarded, not aware, not adequately trained, not taken care of their own problems, or not indulging of women, it can lead to problems in therapy.

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