Andrew Huberman: Relationships, Drama, Betrayal, Sex, and Love | Lex Fridman Podcast #393

The video is about Andrew Huberman discussing his fitness routine and how he has decided to extend the duration of his long run to improve his mobility and overall fitness. He talks about the benefits of lifting heavy objects and training with lighter weights and higher repetitions, as well as the importance of rest and recovery. He also discusses the impact of different types of stress on the body and how he has been experimenting with various variables in a systematic way. Huberman shares his personal experiences with knee injuries and how he is working through them, and also talks about the benefits of walking and integrating light exercise into a productive routine.

This video by Lex Fridman was published on Aug 17, 2023.
Video length: 02:12:22.

The video is about Andrew Huberman, a scientist, teacher, and loyal friend, discussing his fitness routine and how he has decided to extend the duration of his long run to improve his mobility.

He talks about how he wants to be able to run 10 miles if necessary and how he has started training with lighter weights and higher repetitions for three month cycles. Huberman also discusses how training differently can change cognition and how subjecting the body to a variety of stressors can be beneficial. He talks about how he has been playing with the variables in a systematic way and how he has been working through an injury in his knee.

Huberman also talks about how walking doesn't hurt and how he has been playing around with walking for two hours.

• Andrew Huberman is a scientist, teacher, and loyal friend who has been on Lex Fridman's podcast multiple times.
• Huberman has been doing the same fitness routine for over 30 years, which includes lifting weights and running.
• One of his runs is a long run, which he has decided to extend this year to improve his mobility and overall fitness.
• Huberman believes that being 100% inside, meaning feeling good and confident, is essential for a successful relationship.
• He has been experimenting with different variables in a systematic way to improve his fitness and overall health.
• Huberman has had knee injuries in the past, which has affected his ability to run.
• He is currently working through these injuries and experimenting with different exercises to improve his mobility and overall fitness.
• Huberman has been experimenting with walking and integrating light exercise into his daily routine.
• He believes that walking and light exercise can be beneficial for overall health and productivity.

Andrew Huberman: Relationships, Drama, Betrayal, Sex, and Love | Lex Fridman Podcast #393 - YouTube

Andrew Huberman's Fitness Routine

• Andrew Huberman is a scientist, teacher, and loyal friend who has been on Lex Fridman's podcast multiple times.
• Huberman has been doing the same fitness routine for over 30 years, which includes lifting weights and running.
• One of his runs is a long run, which he has decided to extend this year to improve his mobility and overall fitness.
• Huberman believes that being 100% inside, meaning feeling good and confident, is essential for a successful relationship.
• He has been experimenting with different variables in a systematic way to improve his fitness and overall health.

Andrew Huberman's Personal Experiences

• Huberman has had knee injuries in the past, which has affected his ability to run.
• He is currently working through these injuries and experimenting with different exercises to improve his mobility and overall fitness.
• Huberman has been experimenting with walking and integrating light exercise into his daily routine.
• He believes that walking and light exercise can be beneficial for overall health and productivity.

Andrew Huberman's Thoughts on Relationships

• Huberman believes that relationships must feel 100% inside, meaning feeling good and confident, in order to be successful.
• He has never seen a violation of this statement, where it's mostly good and the negotiations are doomed.
• Huberman believes that someone doesn't have to be perfect for a relationship to be successful.
• He believes that relationships must be based on mutual respect and understanding.

Andrew Huberman: Relationships, Drama, Betrayal, Sex, and Love | Lex Fridman Podcast #393 - YouTube

Andrew Huberman's Thoughts on Stress

• Huberman believes that different types of stress can have a significant impact on the body.
• He has been experimenting with different variables in a systematic way to understand the impact of stress on the body.
• Huberman believes that subjecting the body to a variety of stressors in space and time can be beneficial for overall health.
• He believes that it's important to find a balance between stress and relaxation.

Walking and Cognitive Work

• The speaker discusses the benefits of walking and integrating it with cognitive work, such as reading or voice dictation.
• He mentions that walking can help clear the mind and improve focus and productivity.
• The speaker also notes that walking can be a meditative practice, helping to reduce stress and improve overall well-being.
• He suggests that walking can be a great way to incorporate exercise into a busy schedule.

Weight Training and Strength

• The speaker discusses the benefits of weight training and how it can improve strength and joint mobility.
• He mentions that weight training can also help prevent injuries and improve overall fitness.
• The speaker notes that weight training can be done with lighter weights and higher repetitions, as well as heavier weights and fewer repetitions.
• He suggests that weight training can be a great way to improve overall fitness and health.

Sprints and Gym Work

• The speaker discusses the benefits of sprints and how they can improve cardiovascular fitness and overall fitness.
• He mentions that sprints can also help improve speed and agility.
• The speaker notes that gym work, such as weight training, can also improve overall fitness and health.
• He suggests that a combination of sprints and gym work can be a great way to improve overall fitness and health.

Injuries and Recovery

• The speaker discusses his personal experiences with knee injuries and how he is working through them.
• He mentions that rest and recovery are important for injury prevention and recovery.
• The speaker notes that different types of stress can impact the body and recovery time.
• He suggests that a systematic approach to injury prevention and recovery can be effective.

Andrew Huberman's Fitness Routine

• Andrew Huberman discusses his fitness routine and how he has decided to extend the duration of his long run to improve his mobility and overall fitness.
• He talks about the benefits of lifting heavy objects and training with lighter weights and higher repetitions, as well as the importance of rest and recovery.
• He discusses the impact of different types of stress on the body and how he has been experimenting with various variables in a systematic way.
• Huberman shares his personal experiences with knee injuries and how he is working through them, and also talks about the benefits of walking and integrating light exercise into a productive routine.

Andrew Huberman's Personal Experiences

• Andrew Huberman discusses his experiences with trusting his gut versus the opinions of others, and how he has learned to trust his gut more.
• He talks about his experiences with community and the people around him, and how they have been more aligned with the correct choice than not.
• Huberman discusses his experiences with psychedelic journeys, specifically his first high-dose psilocybin journey, and how it helped him grow and learn.
• He talks about his experiences with his body and brain, and how he has learned to listen to their signals and obey them.

Andrew Huberman's Insights on the Human Psyche

• Andrew Huberman talks about the brain region the insula, which represents our sense of internal sensation in reception, and how it is important to listen to its signals.
• He discusses the insights of Paul Conti, who has a level of insight into the human psyche that is astounding, and how he has said the opposite of what most people say about the brain.
• Huberman talks about the mental health series that Paul Conti is doing, and how it is rooted in psychiatry and neuroscience and provides a set of steps to explore the self that does not require working with a therapist.
• He discusses the subconscious as the supercomputer of the brain, and how exploring it and understanding it can improve ourselves over time.

The Idea of Shadows

• The idea that everyone has a capacity to be evil or good.
• Some people express one or the other to a greater extent.
• There is a unique category of people who spend a lot of time exploring their shadows.
• The speaker is someone who is drawn to goodness and light.
• The speaker thinks that some people explore their shadows not when they have a passion for understanding the brain.

Exploring Shadows

• The speaker thinks that the shadow parts of us are important to understand.
• The speaker believes that acknowledging the presence of shadows is important.
• The speaker thinks that bringing shadows to the surface is important for mental health.
• The speaker thinks that exploring the subconscious mind is important.
• The speaker thinks that exploring the self is important.

The Four Episode Series with Paul

• The speaker thinks that the four episode series with Paul is the most important work they have ever been involved in.
• The speaker thinks that the series is very clear that we are not taught how to explore our subconscious.
• The speaker thinks that very few people understand how to explore their subconscious.
• The speaker thinks that the speaker is superb at his craft.

Understanding the Self

• The speaker thinks that exploring some shadows is important.
• The speaker thinks that understanding the self is important.
• The speaker thinks that people do not spend enough time addressing questions about who they really are and what they really want.
• The speaker thinks that a really good psychologist or psychiatrist can help people arrive at deep insights that transform their entire life.

Therapy

• The speaker has done therapy twice a week since they were a kid.
• The speaker thinks that therapy is as important as going to the gym.
• The speaker thinks that people think therapy is just rumination on problems or getting somewhere, but it's not just about support and rapport.
• The speaker thinks that a really good psychologist or psychiatrist can help people arrive at deep insights that transform their entire life.

Section 1: Acceptance

• The speaker discusses the question of whether to accept a situation or to fix it.
• The speaker mentions that they have discovered about themselves that they value loyalty more than the average person.
• The speaker acknowledges that when loyalty is broken, it can be painful to them.
• The speaker suggests that this is who they are and that it will always be this way.
• The speaker mentions that this is not a problem to be fixed, but rather a characteristic of themselves.

Section 2: Relationships

• The speaker discusses their experiences with friendships, particularly male friendships.
• The speaker mentions that they have experienced extreme joy and feelings of safety and trust in their friendships.
• The speaker acknowledges that female friendships have also been very loyal.
• The speaker mentions that getting backstabbed is not something they are familiar with.
• The speaker expresses their love for being crewed up and being with someone who shares their values.

Section 3: Self-Criticism

• The speaker discusses their extreme self-criticism and the self-critical engine in their brain.
• The speaker mentions that they have talked to Paul about this and he has said that it is a bad thing.
• The speaker disagrees with Paul and believes that it is a part of who they are.
• The speaker mentions that they oscillate between being grateful and self-critical.
• The speaker suggests that it may be helpful to figure out the root of the self-criticism.

Section 4: Personal Growth

• The speaker discusses the idea of destroying one's life by trying to control someone else's past.
• The speaker mentions that sometimes traumatic events need to be revisited and worked through in order to move forward.
• The speaker suggests that it is important to get close to traumatic events and revisit them in order to move through them.
• The speaker mentions that it is possible to rewire deep preferences and what we find despicable or joyful.
• The speaker suggests that it is important to find peace with one's flaws and to have a sense of humor about them.

Section 1: The Importance of Hard Things

• The speaker discusses the importance of doing hard things and how it feels good to complete them.
• He emphasizes that it is important to be careful not to destroy the body or mind in the process.
• The speaker believes that achieving peace and being able to sleep well at night are important factors in being able to handle stress.
• He also discusses the importance of finding a place of peace, whether it is through people, moments, or other things.
• The speaker believes that laughter is a good representation of finding peace and being able to step back and see the beauty and absurdity of life.

Section 2: The Benefits of Hard Things

• The speaker discusses the benefits of doing hard things, including feeling good and being able to sleep well at night.
• He also discusses the importance of finding a place of peace, whether it is through people, moments, or other things.
• The speaker believes that laughter is a good representation of finding peace and being able to step back and see the beauty and absurdity of life.

Section 3: The Importance of Peace

• The speaker discusses the importance of achieving peace, including being able to sleep well at night and being able to handle stress.
• He also discusses the importance of finding a place of peace, whether it is through people, moments, or other things.

Section 4: The Benefits of Laughter

• The speaker believes that laughter is a good representation of finding peace and being able to step back and see the beauty and absurdity of life.

Section 1: Andrew Huberman's Fitness Routine

• Andrew Huberman discusses his fitness routine and how he has decided to extend the duration of his long run to improve his mobility and overall fitness.
• He talks about the benefits of lifting heavy objects and training with lighter weights and higher repetitions.
• Huberman discusses the importance of rest and recovery in his fitness routine.
• He shares his personal experiences with knee injuries and how he is working through them.
• Huberman talks about the benefits of walking and integrating light exercise into a productive routine.

Section 2: The Impact of Different Types of Stress on the Body

• Huberman discusses the impact of different types of stress on the body and how he has been experimenting with various variables in a systematic way.
• He talks about the benefits of different types of stress, such as cold exposure and fasting, on the body.
• Huberman shares his personal experiences with different types of stress and how he has incorporated them into his fitness routine.
• He discusses the importance of understanding the impact of stress on the body and how it can affect overall health and well-being.
• Huberman talks about the benefits of incorporating stress-reducing activities, such as meditation and yoga, into a healthy lifestyle.

Section 3: The Importance of Self-Awareness

• Huberman talks about the importance of self-awareness in understanding one's own body and how it can affect overall health and well-being.
• He discusses the benefits of using tools such as wearable technology and tracking apps to monitor one's own health and fitness.
• Huberman shares his personal experiences with using these tools to gain a better understanding of his own body and how it has helped him improve his fitness routine.
• He talks about the importance of being open to new ideas and approaches to health and fitness.
• Huberman discusses the benefits of embracing change and being willing to adapt one's fitness routine based on new information and experiences.

Section 4: The Importance of Embracing Change

• Huberman talks about the importance of embracing change and being willing to adapt one's fitness routine based on new information and experiences.
• He discusses the benefits of being open to new ideas and approaches to health and fitness.
• Huberman shares his personal experiences with embracing change and how it has helped him improve his fitness routine.
• He talks about the importance of being willing to take risks and try new things in order to achieve one's fitness goals.
• Huberman discusses the benefits of being persistent and determined in the face of challenges and setbacks.

Section 1: The Power of Olfaction

• The video is about Andrew Huberman discussing his fitness routine.
• Huberman talks about the benefits of lifting heavy objects and training with lighter weights and higher repetitions.
• He also discusses the importance of rest and recovery.
• Huberman shares his personal experiences with knee injuries and how he is working through them.
• The video also talks about the benefits of walking and integrating light exercise into a productive routine.

Section 2: The Absurdity of the Fight

• The video discusses the idea of a fight between Elon Musk and Mark Zuckerberg.
• Elon Musk is approaching the fight as a spectacle, while Mark Zuckerberg is approaching it as a sport.
• The video also talks about the historical significance of the Coliseum, where gladiators fought to the death.
• The video mentions the meme of the fight and the absurdity of it.
• The video also talks about the intimacy of sparring and the exchange of bodily fluids with a stranger.

Section 3: The Intimacy of Sparring

• The video talks about the intimacy of sparring and the exchange of bodily fluids with a stranger.
• The video mentions the book "A Fighter's Heart" where the author talks about the intimacy of sparring.
• The video also talks about the process of fear and anxiety that occurs during sparring.
• The video mentions the video game "Diablo 4" where the player fights demons.
• The video also talks about the video game "Mike Tyson's Punch Out" where the player fights opponents.

Section 4: The Shakespearean Journey of Mike Tyson

• The video talks about the incredible journey of Mike Tyson's life.
• The video mentions the book "A Fighter's Heart" where the author talks about Mike Tyson's life.
• The video also talks about the arcs of Mike Tyson's life and how they are like an only in America kind of tale.
• The video mentions the scientist Neri Oxman who works at the intersection of Nature and Technology.
• The video also talks about the benefits of walking and integrating light exercise into a productive routine.

Section 1: The Attraction to Shakespearean Drama

• Andrew Huberman discusses the idea that each person's life is a Shakespearean drama.
• He explains that humans are attracted to this kind of drama, even though mental health is associated with peace.
• Huberman suggests that there may be an aspect of the subconscious mind that pulls people towards drama.
• He mentions that he has been drawn to people with a unique passion for what they do and a real heart for it.
• Huberman also talks about his own experiences with being drawn to people with a strong pleasure drive and an aggressive drive.

Section 2: The Alchemy of Different Drives

• Huberman explains that people have different ratios of aggressive and pleasure drives, which can create a species that creates incredible recipes of drama and peace.
• He mentions that the differences in chromosomes, hormones, and personal history can affect the ratios of these drives.
• Huberman talks about the importance of finding peace and contentment in life, even if it means experiencing periods of friction.
• He suggests that it is not always that people are seeking friction, but that it can be a part of life for periods of time.
• Huberman mentions that there may be an equivalent or mirror image of this for women, but that the specifics may differ.

Section 3: Personal Experiences with Aggressive and Pleasure Drives

• Huberman talks about his own experiences with being drawn to people with a strong pleasure drive and an aggressive drive.
• He mentions that he has known people who have a ton of aggressive drive and very low pleasure drive, and others who have a high pleasure drive and little aggressive drive.
• Huberman talks about the importance of finding balance between these different drives in life.
• He suggests that there is an alchemy that exists where people have these things in different ratios and then blend in the differences in chromosomes, hormones, and personal history.
• Huberman mentions that he has found peace and contentment in life by finding a balance between these different drives.

Section 4: The Importance of Finding Peace and Contentment

• Huberman talks about the importance of finding peace and contentment in life, even if it means experiencing periods of friction.
• He suggests that it is not always that people are seeking friction, but that it can be a part of life for periods of time.
• Huberman mentions that he has found peace and contentment in life by finding a balance between his aggressive and pleasure drives.
• He talks about the importance of finding a balance between these different drives in order to create a species that creates incredible recipes of drama and peace.
• Huberman suggests that there may be an equivalent or mirror image of this for women, but that the specifics may differ.

Section 1: The Benefits of Getting Older

• The speaker discusses the benefits of getting older, including finding the Shakespearean drama less appealing and finding joy in the peace and simplicity of life.
• He mentions that the notion of checking boxes is a real thing, and that he has a morning meditation routine that helps him think through his different roles and goals in life.
• The speaker also talks about the importance of taking inventory of where he has been, where he is at, and where he is going, and how this helps him understand the different contexts he has to exist in.
• He mentions that within each of these contexts, there are things that he wants to accomplish and define, and that he is ambitious and wants to be the best brother he can be to his sister.
• The speaker concludes by saying that he finds clarity and brings himself into the day through his prayer routine.

Section 2: The Benefits of Meditation

• The speaker discusses the benefits of meditation, including helping him understand just how many different contexts he has to exist in and reminding himself that there is still more that he hasn't done that he is excited about.
• He mentions that within each of these contexts, there are things that he wants to accomplish and define, and that he is ambitious and wants to be the best brother he can be to his sister.
• The speaker also talks about the importance of taking inventory of where he has been, where he is at, and where he is going, and how this helps him understand the different contexts he has to exist in.
• He mentions that within each of these contexts, there are things that he wants to accomplish and define, and that he is ambitious and wants to be the best brother he can be to his sister.
• The speaker concludes by saying that he finds clarity and brings himself into the day through his prayer routine.

Section 3: The Benefits of Prayer

• The speaker discusses the benefits of prayer, including finding clarity and bringing himself into the day.
• He mentions that he started doing prayer this last year because he wanted to understand just how many different contexts he has to exist in and remind himself that there is still more that he hasn't done that he is excited about.
• The speaker also talks about the importance of taking inventory of where he has been, where he is at, and where he is going, and how this helps him understand the different contexts he has to exist in.
• He mentions that within each of these contexts, there are things that he wants to accomplish and define, and that he is ambitious and wants to be the best brother he can be to his sister.
• The speaker concludes by saying that he finds clarity and brings himself into the day through his prayer routine.

Section 4: The Benefits of Being Ambitious

• The speaker discusses the benefits of being ambitious, including wanting to be the best brother he can be to his sister.
• He mentions that he wants to accomplish things within each of the different contexts he has to exist in, such as taking a trip with his sister for their birthdays.
• The speaker also talks about the importance of taking inventory of where he has been, where he is at, and where he is going, and how this helps him understand the different contexts he has to exist in.
• He mentions that within each of these contexts, there are things that he wants to accomplish and define, and that he is ambitious and wants to be the best brother he can be to his sister.
• The speaker concludes by saying that he finds clarity and brings himself into the day through his prayer routine.

Section 1: The Benefits of Lifting Heavy Objects and Training with Light Weights

• The benefits of lifting heavy objects include improved mobility and overall fitness.
• Training with lighter weights and higher repetitions can also improve fitness.
• Rest and recovery are important for overall fitness and avoiding injury.
• Different types of stress can impact the body in different ways.
• Experimenting with different variables in a systematic way can help improve fitness.

Section 2: Huberman's Personal Experiences with Knee Injuries

• Huberman has experienced knee injuries in the past.
• He is working through these injuries by incorporating walking and light exercise into his routine.

Section 3: The Impact of Different Types of Stress on the Body

• Different types of stress can impact the body in different ways.
• Huberman is experimenting with different variables in a systematic way to understand the impact of stress on the body.

Section 4: Huberman's Personal Experiences with Character Defects

• Huberman acknowledges that he has character defects, like anyone else.
• He tries to acknowledge these defects and ask for help in removing them, not magically.
• This process is becoming a bigger part of his life and has helped him be better to himself and others.
• Huberman believes that if we don't believe in something bigger than ourselves, we will self-destruct.
• He thinks that acknowledging there's something bigger and more powerful than ourselves can restore a sense of agency for better action.

Section 1: Relationships and Asking for Help

• The speaker discusses the importance of asking for help in relationships.
• He emphasizes that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but rather a way to improve one's relationships.
• The speaker shares his personal experience with asking for help in his relationships.
• He discusses the benefits of seeking help from others, including improved communication and understanding.
• The speaker encourages others to seek help in their relationships, as it can lead to stronger and more fulfilling connections.

Section 2: The Benefits of Walking and Light Exercise

• The speaker discusses the benefits of incorporating walking and light exercise into a productive routine.
• He emphasizes that these activities can improve overall fitness and mobility.
• The speaker shares his personal experience with incorporating walking and light exercise into his routine.
• He discusses the importance of rest and recovery in a fitness routine.
• The speaker encourages others to incorporate walking and light exercise into their routines, as it can lead to improved health and well-being.

Section 3: The Importance of Sunlight and Vitamin D

• The speaker discusses the importance of sunlight and vitamin D for overall health and well-being.
• He emphasizes that getting enough sunlight can improve mood, reduce stress, and boost the immune system.
• The speaker shares his personal experience with the benefits of sunlight and vitamin D.
• He discusses the importance of spending time outdoors and getting enough sunlight, especially during the winter months.
• The speaker encourages others to prioritize getting enough sunlight and vitamin D in their daily routines, as it can lead to improved health and well-being.

Section 4: The Benefits of Eating Disorders and Bipolar Disorder Treatment

• The speaker discusses the benefits of treating eating disorders and bipolar disorder.
• He emphasizes that these treatments can improve overall health and well-being.
• The speaker shares his personal experience with treating eating disorders and bipolar disorder.
• He discusses the importance of seeking professional help for these conditions.
• The speaker encourages others to seek treatment for eating disorders and bipolar disorder, as it can lead to improved health and well-being.

Section 1: The Importance of Vigor Displays

• The primate sewing that displays his figure is done specifically to show that he still has what it takes to lead the troop.
• Number two, three, and four males are aware of the vigor displays but they might not just be displays of vigor, but also an insurance policy against people seeing weakness.
• Grooming is extremely important in primate world if a male wants to affiliate with another man.
• If they want to ostracize or kill one of the members of their troop, they will just leave it alone and no one will groom it.
• The interesting thing is that number two and three start to line up a strategy to groom the guy but they are thinking about overtaking the entire troop and setting in a new Alpha.

Section 2: The Current Alpha's Grooming Strategy

• The current Alpha did that to get where he is, so he knows that they're doing grooming but they might not be sincere about it.
• He takes the whole troop on a raid to another troop to see who will fight for him and who won't.
• This is advanced contracting of behavior for a species that is not thought of as as sophisticated as us.
• It's very interesting and it gets to something that I hope will have an opportunity to talk about because it's something that I'm obsessed with lately.

Section 3: Overt versus Covert Contracts

• Overt contracts are where you exchange work for money or any number of things in an overt way.
• Covert contracts take on a very different form and always lead to bad things.
• In my belief, overt contracts are good and covert contracts are bad.
• Dogs and humans have a 100% overt relationship, meaning they don't manipulate each other.

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