Non-Monogamy, Exclusivity Agreements & Regulating Sexual Jealousy - Justin Mogiliski | Modern Wisdom

Last updated: Oct 29, 2023

The video is about the popularity of consensual non-monogamy and how it is becoming more accepted in society. The speaker discusses how individualistic societies have taken foot and people have more equal opportunities, which has led to a rise in non-monogamous relationships. The speaker also talks about the sex differences in preferences for consensual non-monogamous relationships, with men being more likely to pursue such relationships due to their desire for more sexual opportunities. The speaker also discusses the evolutionary roots of some sex differences and how they may impact consensual non-monogamous relationships.

This video by Chris Williamson was published on Oct 28, 2023.
Video length: 01:16:20.

The video is about the popularity of consensual non-monogamy and the factors contributing to its surge.

The speaker, Justin Mogiliski, discusses how individualistic societies have led to more options for people, and how people may be pursuing non-monogamous relationships to match their current motivations in life. He also talks about the sex differences in preferences for consensual non-monogamous relationships, with men being more likely to pursue such relationships due to their interest in casual sex.

The speaker also discusses the evolutionary roots of some sex differences and how they may impact people's motivations for consensual non-monogamy.

  • Non-monogamous relationships are becoming more accepted in society.
  • Individualistic societies have taken foot and people have more equal opportunities.
  • Evolutionary roots of some sex differences may impact consensual non-monogamous relationships.
  • Sex differences in preferences for consensual non-monogamous relationships may impact the success of finding multiple partners.
  • Men are more likely to pursue consensual non-monogamous relationships due to their desire for more sexual opportunities.
  • Women are more likely to be emotionally jealous in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Men tend to be more sexually jealous than women in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Different issues and concerns arise in non-monogamous relationships compared to monogamous relationships.
  • Jealousy is a common issue in non-monogamous relationships that can lead to failure.

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Popularity of Consensual Non-Monogamy

  • Consensual non-monogamy is becoming more popular in society.
  • Individualistic societies have taken foot and people have more equal opportunities.
  • Marriage was once a system for unifying families, but now people have more options.
  • People may want an option that matches their current motives in life.
  • There is a sex difference in preference for consensual non-monogamous relationships.
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Sex Differences in Consensual Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Men are more likely to say they want to be in a consensually non-monogamous relationship.
  • Women tend to report less interest in consensual non-monogamy.
  • Men are more likely to be thinking about casual sex and seeking multiple partners.
  • Women are more interested in commitment from a partner and may be less interested in consensual non-monogamy.
  • Sex differences in preferences for consensual non-monogamous relationships may impact the success of finding multiple partners.
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Evolutionary Roots of Sex Differences

  • Men are looking for more casual sexual relationships.
  • Women are more interested in commitment from a partner.
  • Having multiple partnerships may provide opportunities for emotional connections and support networks.
  • Sex differences in preferences for consensual non-monogamous relationships may impact the success of finding multiple partners.
  • Sex differences in preferences for consensual non-monogamous relationships may impact the success of finding multiple partners.
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Motives and Sex Differences

  • Men have more sexual fantasies and desire more casual sex.
  • Men experience more jealousy from their partner being physically intimate with someone else.
  • Women may experience more jealousy from their partner being physically intimate with someone else.
  • Women may have a higher bar to get over to get arousal from consensual non-monogamous relationships.
  • Sex differences in preferences for consensual non-monogamous relationships may impact the success of finding multiple partners.
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Section 1: Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Non-monogamous relationships are becoming more accepted in society.
  • Individualistic societies have taken foot and people have more equal opportunities.
  • Rise in non-monogamous relationships due to desire for more sexual opportunities, especially among men.
  • Evolutionary roots of some sex differences may impact consensual non-monogamous relationships.
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Section 2: Sex Differences in Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Men are more likely to pursue consensual non-monogamous relationships due to their desire for more sexual opportunities.
  • Women are more likely to be emotionally jealous in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Men tend to be more sexually jealous than women in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Women tend to be more emotionally jealous than men in non-monogamous relationships.
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Section 3: Challenges in Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Different issues and concerns arise in non-monogamous relationships compared to monogamous relationships.
  • Men and women will have to resolve different challenges for themselves in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Non-monogamous relationships tend to fail when individuals do not account for the unique dynamics that arise with additional partners.
  • Jealousy is a common issue in non-monogamous relationships that can lead to failure.
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Section 4: The Value of Monogamy

  • Some people argue that the value of monogamy lies in the absence of rivalry between partners.
  • Monogamy can help to prevent jealousy and competition between partners.
  • Non-monogamous relationships can introduce new relationship demands and competition between partners.
  • The default strategy in non-monogamous relationships is often to get one's own and not worry about the impact on the established partner.
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The Rise of Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • The popularity of consensual non-monogamous relationships is increasing in society.
  • Individualistic societies have taken foot and people have more equal opportunities, which has led to a rise in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Sex differences in preferences for consensual non-monogamous relationships are also evident, with men being more likely to pursue such relationships due to their desire for more sexual opportunities.
  • The evolutionary roots of some sex differences may impact consensual non-monogamous relationships.
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Calculations of Mate Value

  • Some people may make calculations of their mate value before pursuing a non-monogamous relationship.
  • Individuals with higher mate value may feel less jealousy if they're in a non-monogamous relationship because they're interested in finding another partner.
  • However, individuals in a non-monogamous relationship may feel more jealousy if they perceive their current partner as less likely to leave them or find someone better.
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The Face of the Sigma Male Meme

  • The sigma male meme on the internet often portrays a cool, hardcore, orchestral music over the top of a dude looking really buff and lean.
  • Chris Bumstead, a bodybuilder type dude who is Mr Olympia three or four times, is often cited as the face of the sigma male meme.
  • Despite being the face of the sigma male meme, Chris Bumstead is also incredibly open and vulnerable with his partner.
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Personality Profiles of Non-Monogamous Individuals

  • Openness to experience is a significant predictor of non-monogamous relationships.
  • People who are LGBTQ+ are more likely to be in consensually non-monogamous relationships.
  • People with unrestricted sociosexuality, who have a greater interest in casual sex, are also more likely to be in non-monogamous relationships.
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Demographic Variables in Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • If we were to look at a more fine-grained analysis, we might see other predictors of non-monogamous relationships.
  • The world of non-monogamy is often seen as a sex thing, with people wanting to have more partners and multiple partners at the same time.
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The Rise of Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Non-monogamous relationships are becoming more accepted in society.
  • Individualistic societies have taken foot and people have more equal opportunities.
  • The rise in non-monogamous relationships is due to a desire for more sexual opportunities.
  • Men are more likely to pursue non-monogamous relationships due to their desire for more sexual opportunities.
  • Evolutionary roots of some sex differences may impact consensual non-monogamous relationships.
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Sex Differences in Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Men are more likely to pursue non-monogamous relationships due to their desire for more sexual opportunities.
  • Sex differences in preferences for consensual non-monogamous relationships may impact the dynamics of these relationships.
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Popular Non-Monogamous Setups

  • Polyamorous relationships are the most popular non-monogamous setup.
  • Swinging is also a popular non-monogamous setup.
  • Open relationships are a broader category and can include a variety of practices.
  • The exact frequency of these different relationships is hard to nail down due to stigma.
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Branding and Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • The non-monogamous world has a branding problem due to negative assumptions and stigma.
  • The most popular manosphere talking points from 2023 include one-sided non-monogamous relationships.
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Section 1: Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Non-monogamous relationships are becoming more accepted in society.
  • Individualistic societies have taken foot and people have more equal opportunities.
  • Sex differences in preferences for consensual non-monogamous relationships.
  • Men are more likely to pursue such relationships due to their desire for more sexual opportunities.
  • Evolutionary roots of some sex differences may impact consensual non-monogamous relationships.
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Section 2: Sex Differences in Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Bro Science on the internet suggests that if a man is sufficiently high value, a woman will be prepared to let him sleep around.
  • Joe Rogan bit where he talks about how if his wife came home and said she'd ended up getting with one of her friends, he would have no problems at all.
  • One-sided non-monogamy is being touted as a potential solution to jealousy feelings from the male side.
  • One-penis policy where there is just one penis within the relationship tends to be common.
  • Traditional instantiations of plural marriage tend to be penny where there's one man and multiple women.
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Section 3: Conflict in Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Conflicts in non-monogamous relationships are similar to those in monogamous relationships.
  • Adding a third person in non-monogamous relationships creates unique issues.
  • People may worry about losing their partner and attachment anxiety in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Managing potential sexual transmission infections is a concern in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Coordinating child care in non-monogamous relationships can be challenging.
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Section 4: Reputation and Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • People in consensually non-monogamous relationships need to deal with their reputation.
  • Little White Lies can turn into Little White Lies and impact non-monogamous relationships.
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Section 1: The Importance of Transparency in Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Transparency is crucial in non-monogamous relationships to make accurate predictions about how the relationship will evolve.
  • Effective communication is necessary to achieve transparency in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Communication helps to predict how the relationship will evolve and helps to avoid speculation.
  • Transparency helps to avoid speculation and helps to predict how the relationship will evolve.
  • Explicit conversation upfront is necessary to establish transparency in non-monogamous relationships.
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Section 2: Exclusivity Agreements in Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Exclusivity agreements are a common strategy used in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Exclusivity agreements are used to establish boundaries and expectations in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Exclusivity agreements can help to avoid potential conflicts in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Exclusivity agreements can be tailored to different types of non-monogamous relationships.
  • Exclusivity agreements can be revisited over time to ensure they remain relevant and effective.
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Section 3: Sexual Jealousy in Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Sexual jealousy is a common issue in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Sexual jealousy can be caused by a variety of factors, including insecurity and lack of trust.
  • Effective communication is necessary to address sexual jealousy in non-monogamous relationships.
  • It is important to establish clear boundaries and expectations in non-monogamous relationships to avoid sexual jealousy.
  • Non-monogamous relationships can be a good way to explore sexual desires and preferences.
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Section 4: Evolutionary Roots of Sexual Differences in Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Evolutionary roots of sexual differences in non-monogamous relationships may impact consensual non-monogamous relationships.
  • Men may be more likely to pursue non-monogamous relationships due to their desire for more sexual opportunities.
  • Individualistic societies have taken foot and people have more equal opportunities, which has led to a rise in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Sex differences in preferences for consensual non-monogamous relationships may impact the success of non-monogamous relationships.
  • It is important to understand the evolutionary roots of sexual differences in non-monogamous relationships to navigate them effectively.
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Section 1: Disclosing Attraction

  • The speaker discusses the popularity of consensual non-monogamous relationships and how it is becoming more accepted in society.
  • Individualistic societies have taken foot and people have more equal opportunities, which has led to a rise in non-monogamous relationships.
  • Men are more likely to pursue such relationships due to their desire for more sexual opportunities.
  • Evolutionary roots of some sex differences may impact consensual non-monogamous relationships.
  • Disclosing attraction to a partner can lead to higher relationship satisfaction.
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Section 2: Proposed Strategies

  • Some people in the non-monogamous community proposed strategies for people in monogamous relationships to also try.
  • The data set found that people who were monogamous who did these strategies also tended to report higher relationship satisfaction.
  • Engaging in the behavior may have led to greater satisfaction.
  • Compression, or feeling happy for a partner who is involved with someone else, is a possible outcome of disclosing attraction.
  • Compression is not a spontaneously arising emotion, but rather one that requires reasoning towards.
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Section 3: Compersion

  • Compression is a rare emotion that is not spontaneously arising, but rather one that requires reasoning towards.
  • It is not an ancestrally rare emotion, but rather one that is not well understood.
  • Compression is not as spontaneously arising as jealousy or envy.
  • It is not a common emotion, but rather one that requires effort to understand and experience.
  • Compression is not a common emotion, but rather one that requires effort to understand and experience.
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Section 4: Conclusion

  • Disclosing attraction to a partner can lead to higher relationship satisfaction.
  • Engaging in consensual non-monogamous relationships can lead to greater satisfaction.
  • Compression is a rare emotion that requires reasoning towards.
  • It is not an ancestrally rare emotion, but rather one that is not well understood.
  • Consensual non-monogamous relationships are becoming more accepted in society.
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Section 1: Non-Monogamous Relationships

  • Non-monogamous relationships are becoming more accepted in society.
  • Individualistic societies have taken foot and people have more equal opportunities.
  • Men are more likely to pursue non-monogamous relationships due to their desire for more sexual opportunities.
  • Evolutionary roots of some sex differences may impact consensual non-monogamous relationships.
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Section 2: Sexual Jealousy

  • Sexual jealousy is a common emotion in consensual non-monogamous relationships.
  • Individuals who experience jealousy may not feel free to communicate about it.
  • Openness to talk about jealousy helps people resolve it.
  • Avoidance of jealousy is a bad way to manage it.
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